Email Style

[Guest]

I just received this email:

"OH!!! Certainly! Hope you’re having a BLAST!"

from a 30ish female coworker. I (male) would never send an email like that. What I mean by that is all of the !'s and caps. Would any of you males ever send one like that?

[lonewolf]

Is there a missing link or was it deleted?

[Daisy]

Re: Email Style

It depends. If informal and to a friend, yes. Written language is definitely changing due to computers. Obviously texting is an extreme example but the above example is showing more emotion than if written as recommeded by strunk. I see it as representing an extra layer of information and don't find it that grating in an informal setting.

[Guest]

Re: Email Style

It depends. If informal and to a friend, yes. Written language is definitely changing due to computers. Obviously texting is an extreme example but the above example is showing more emotion than if written as recommeded by strunk. I see it as representing an extra layer of information and don't find it that grating in an informal setting.

I didn't find it grating at all. It was just an observation of one difference between the sexes. My wife (50ish) told me that she sends message like that all the time.

[Daisy]

Re: Email Style

It depends. If informal and to a friend, yes. Written language is definitely changing due to computers. Obviously texting is an extreme example but the above example is showing more emotion than if written as recommeded by strunk. I see it as representing an extra layer of information and don't find it that grating in an informal setting.

I didn't find it grating at all. It was just an observation of one difference between the sexes. My wife (50ish) told me that she sends message like that all the time.

I would find it grating in a more formal setting. It may well be a difference between older men and women but I doubt it is for teens.

[Marlow]

Re: Email Style

I just received this email:
"OH!!! Certainly! Hope you’re having a BLAST!"
from a 30ish female coworker. I (male) would never send an email like that. What I mean by that is all of the !'s and caps. Would any of you males ever send one like that?

Well, YES, I WOULD!!!! (and I do)
E-mail (and posts on message boards) are too impersonal and 'boring' for my standards. I am way to upbeat and enthusiastic about others (and life in general) to post the above with something like this (which I see all the time):

"My response is in the affirmative, and I am pleased that you are enjoying your stay there. "

Dang it - seize the freakin' day! Would it kill you to appear as though you REALLY appreciated the note and genuinely LIKE the other person??!!
:wink:

Your pal,

Doug Logan

[imaginative]

Interestingly, I have noticed the same phenomenom again and again over
the last few weeks. Women, on average, use much more exclamation
marks, smileys, ``lol''s, capitalized words, etc.---often to the point
where it becomes annoying to me. About two weeks ago, I read a message
on another message board which contained (guesstimate) twenty
sentence---and twenty times ``lol''.

My hypothesis is that this is due to the more emotionally driven
communication style that women have (compared to men): They try to
bring over their emotions by using these means, where the average man
would focus on thoughts or use just words for emotional content.

I would be genuinely interested in hearing the women's take on this
hypothesis.

As for myself, I tend to be very restrictive, possibly even
underusing these means. (Instead, I focus on confusing people with
over-complicated and sometimes incorrect grammar.)

[mojo]

I am no expert on email styles and gender nor do I receive work related emails.

I do read a few forums that are frequented by mostly females and there is a huge difference in how women express themselves as compared to men and what they are willing to share with the world!

Wome are very sensitive to the wording of something. I have seen plenty of fights and hurt feelings result from the misunderstanding of a single word. Women need to know exactly what the person meant; men seems to let it just roll off ther backs.




I think you are right that women, in general, like to express the emotion that goes along with their response to things they write.

And then there is marlow. :roll: :shock:

[Marlow]

And then there is marlow. :roll: :shock:

I am a rock . . . I am an island . . .

[Master Po]

...
Wome are very sensitive to the wording of something. I have seen plenty of fights and hurt feelings result from the misunderstanding of a single word. Women need to know exactly what the person meant; men seems to let it just roll off ther backs.
...

If only this were the case on these message boards...

[Master Po]

And then there is marlow. :roll: :shock:

I am a rock . . . I am an island . . .

ah, Marlow, you too are a piece of the continent, a part of the main...

[rasb]

And then there is marlow. :roll: :shock:

I am a rock . . . I am an island . . .

ah, Marlow, you too are a piece of the continent, a part of the main...

I don't know, I think he's only connected at low tide...

[Master Po]

And then there is marlow. :roll: :shock:

I am a rock . . . I am an island . . .

ah, Marlow, you too are a piece of the continent, a part of the main...

I don't know, I think he's only connected at low tide...

So, then, perhaps he's a peninsula, and only an island in his own mind -- perhaps when the tide goes out, he'll weigh in on these speculations.

:wink:

[rasb]

Or maybe an isthmus ? Gawd, that's hard to say with a peanut butter sandwich in your mouth. If the ocean levels rise even a little, I hope Marlow seeks higher ground, and always takes the high road.

[Marlow]

I hope Marlow seeks higher ground, and always takes the high road.

Wise words, amigo, I hope so too!
Speaking of tides, just got back from the beach where it's only 98 freakin' degrees! :shock: Florida in the summer . . . like Hades, only hotter.